CHAPTER 8. PARENTS, CONCEPTION, BIRTH

We would like to start our discussion of birth with a short story. One wise little boy, on discovering that his father was born in Saint Petersburg, his mother up in Arkhangelsk; himself down in Yuzhno-Uralsk; and his little sister over in Yekaterinburg, burst out: “ what a good thing we all managed to meet up in the end!”

This young philosopher is not so far from the truth. What or who brings people together, sometimes prompting them to overcome huge distances to meet up? Thanks to what or whom does this meeting take place? The birth of a living, intelligent creature is one of this planet’s greatest mysteries – but even more mysterious is what leads up to the birth.

As a rule, the ground work is laid long before the future parents have met and got to know one other. The initiative to give birth to a person arises between two boundaries – a mother and a father. The paternal boundary gets put in place seven years before the young creature arrives – the maternal one, three years before. If you prepared your arrival on Earth with care, you can easily detect this principle in the dates when your parents met and how long they knew each other.

When she was a girl, Mum pointed at a chap she didn’t know and said to her friend: “That’s my future husband”. Three years later they met again and were never ever apart”

“After graduating, I decided to get married. I dated various girls but couldn’t find my ‘one and only’. One of my main criteria for choosing a girlfriend was whether she would be a good mother for my future children. I only met my wife four years after college. And three years later we married and had a fantastic little boy.”

“I was born only seven years after my parents married. When people asked why they waited so long to invite a child into their lives, they said they had wanted to live for themselves first , then after four years of this, when they decided to have a baby, they did not immediately succeed. As a result that was how it was with me: it took 7 years for my Dad to prepare for the role of father, and three years for my mother to get ready to be a Mum.”

And how did your parents meet? Did they live in the same neighbourhood, or did you need to help them cover huge distances and cross national frontiers to bring them together? Or maybe you came into a ready-made family and your older brother or sister had done all the ‘work’ of uniting the representatives of two different civilisations?

Get to know the relatives on both boundaries of your arrival. Analyse their names, their birthdates, where they live and their professions. Why was it them you chose as yours, when you were planning your birth on this planet?
Try to understand - why? If your parents are no longer with you, photographs from your family album will help you answer many questions, because a photograph reveals a lot – not just a person’s character. A photograph has sealed in print prompts about how our lives may develop in future. The practical exercises on “Nothing Happens By Chance” will teach us how to read the prompts in a photograph; which details we should pay attention to; and what this or that gesture, or pose, means. Look at your parent’s wedding photographs. They can tell you a lot.
The next point relates to which of your parents invited you to this Earth: whose particle, or ‘blob’ you are. Each of us is born as a ‘blob’ of only one parent. It all depends who wants the child.

As a rule one parent dreams of creating its physical body, while the other ‘sketches’ its spiritual portrait. The one who invites the child to this world takes special care of it, constantly looks after it and tries in some way to create a physical relationship between themselves and their child. They feed and dress it, and provide it with everything it needs. This parent has difficulty parting with the child, and always wants to keep their eye on it. The other parent is only a vehicle and, as a rule, views the child in quite a different way. This parent does not have the feeling that this is their own child, particularly. To begin with, this parent relates to the child as though they were its friend.

“I never got on with my father. I was always hoping he would love me the way he loved my brother, but he was strangely distant and cold...As a child, I accused him of not loving me. When I grew up, I started blaming myself for somehow not living up to his expectations. Everything fell into place only when I was analysing the theme “Whose ‘blob’ am I?” It transpires that I am my Mum’s. After I read the stories on “Birth” in “The Living Book”, I realised that my father was the conductor who could not “patiently fall in love” with someone’s else’ ‘‘blob’’. He could not learn to love me, simply because he did not recognise his own role in my birth, though he took an interest in it. Now I have no illusions and I don’t blame my father for his attitude to me, although before it gave me a lot of heartache.”

“When I realised whose ‘‘blob’’ I am, I began to understand why everyone else behaved the way they did. I am my Mum’s ‘‘blob’’ and by observing her, I taught myself to enjoy my friends and get the best out of them. She and I are on the same emotional waveband, qualitatively. With my father I had walks, talks, chats. My grandfather’s military discipline and peremptoriness (he was a soldier), combined with the finickyness my father had as an accountant. Later, I had to be strict and demanding with my son, who is his grandfather’s ‘‘blob’’.My relatives could not understand why I was lenient with my daughter (who is a ‘‘blob’’ of mine,) yet so hard on my son.”

“ It is only thanks to the book and exercises on “Nothing Happens By Chance” that I managed to untangle a major knot of misunderstanding in my family. It began when I worked out whose ‘
‘blob’’ my first husband was. When I came across the theme “Man and Woman”, I was able to answer the questions: “What was I looking for in my life partner?” “Why did my first husband and I divorce?” The answer was simple. I was looking for someone to represent a particle of my father, so that I could study it and so make out all the nuances of the opposite phenomenon on Earth. The theme of “ “Sacrifice on Earth” then developed into a professional one. When I knew what it was, it was easy to help everyone make sense of themselves and their surroundings.“

Conception is an important factor that influences the future of the person born, in many ways. There are many examples of how the way in which a person was conceived, affects their choice of profession or their outlook on life.

“My parents conceived me in a car, when they were driving from one town to the next. Dad could lock on a target from far off, and took my Mum along on one of his trips. Now the car is my second, or maybe even my first home. I spend all my time on inter-city trips.”

“I was conceived on board a ship in a storm. I was amazed to discover when I was out sailing on a rough sea that all my friends felt so ill, they were green in the face and dying to get back to shore. But I enjoyed the choppiness and felt great.”

Two energy lines come together at the moment of conception – maternal and paternal. If a child is conceived in love and well-being, if her parents treat each other carefully and ethically in the process of creating her body, then in future she will be very stable, and have a harmonious and happy life. The relationship between her mother and father affects whether she is joyful and bright in life, and develops easily, or whether she has a flawed character and a lot of aggression.

The most complicated situations arise when one of the boundaries round a person’s arrival is missing. Then she has no grounding in life. This sort of person did not receive enough love when she came to Earth and one axis did not form. And of course, the better the relationship between her parents, the more chances a person has to get a footing on the planet, or a grounding in human intelligence.

At the moment of conception, there is a transition from space into energy, and from time into information. At the moment of birth, energy transits into an energy-package and information, into an information-package.

It is the father who determines how a person will proceed through humanity, and how she will rely upon information and time. It is the mother who determines how she will proceed over the Earth, and how exactly she will find her bearings in energy.
Paternal ‘blobs’ relate very easily with the world of objects. It is easy and simple for them to identify them, and learn to use them in a practical sense. Maternal ‘blobs’ cannot do this. They are closer to a descriptive outlook on the world.

Paternal ‘blobs’ handle mathematics, physics, biology and applied subjects more easily. ‘Blobs’ from the mother need some preparation, before they understand what these are about. Paternal ‘blobs’ very easily understand when different diagrams are drawn on the board, and there is an opportunity to enter identical letters into different spatial shapes. But when we start doing philosophy, philology and cosmology, then the ‘blobs’ of the mother cope more easily than paternal ones.

Paternal ‘blobs’ listen to things with great pleasure and love solving problems. They also sit in silence with great pleasure. But ‘blobs’ of the mother take great pleasure in talking, and trying to describe this world in some way. The logbook of practical exercises on “Nothing ever Happens By Chance” will help you determine whose ‘blob’ you are.